So, you've recently gone through a break up and now you are convinced that you need your ex to simply survive. But the truth is, you won't die if your ex is gone. Even worse, thinking such thoughts will actually make things much worse than they have to be. Your ex is gone, but as long as you're breathing, you are alive.
Sure, you may feel dead inside, but if you want to get your ex back, then you need to approach things differently, starting with your attitude. If you are lamenting your loss out of some sense of the melodramatic, then get over it. Simple. Your carrying on about how bad everything is only makes you look foolish and it will push your ex even further away.
On the other hand, if you feel like you could die now that your ex is gone, and it's because you are depressed, then you need to do something about it. Get help from your doctor, or see a counselor. You need to take care of yourself first. Besides, your ex will be more willing to take you back if they see you are doing fine without them, as opposed to needing them to cope.
The good news is that the vast majority of relationships that end in a break up can be patched back together. It will take some thought, time and effort, but it can be done by following these steps:
1. Relax. You need to be rational as you go forward, so calm down and get a grip. It will make everything to come that much easier.
2. You both need time and space to think things through. Do not go running back to your ex, begging and pleading for them to take you back. Let's face it, weakness is not an appealing character trait. You know your ex the best, so use your best judgment to gauge how much time they need.
3. Understand that the break up is the best thing right now. It may only be temporary, but it's also necessary.
4. After you have calmed down, had enough time, and gotten a fresh perspective, it's time to contact your ex. Again, remain calm. Your sole purpose here is to set up a time and place to talk about things face-to-face.
5. Have a sincere discussion and start patching things up. The key here is to be honest about the past and your potential future. Be respectful and don't argue. You are trying get your ex back, not prove that you're right.
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